The guest post this morning is from our Director of Marketing and Events, Kelley Swann. I love her insight in this blog and transparency in raising her little man in today’s society.
Eighteen months ago, God blessed my husband and I with a chunky, fiery and fun little boy. We named him Lincoln. Not directly after Abraham Lincoln, but I find it ironic that he holds the same name as a famous abolitionist considering I spend most of my days fighting modern day slavery. I actually came across the idea for the name several years ago. Maybe it was God’s way of giving me a glimpse of my future both personally and professionally.
Lincoln has already grown to be a very independent and a brilliant little boy (of course I can say that, I’m his mother). He adapts quickly and picks up on so much already– it’s astounding. I recognize this as a strength and a possible detriment. The world today moves so quickly that adapting is necessary, however so much of what is placed before us creates a delusional picture of how our lives should be and how we should treat others. The world says our value is found in possessions and relationships. While I know that’s not the truth, I also know that my son will have to learn to manage this. He will find himself in situations where girls will be objects, not a person of value. He will be exposed to temptations from all corners pertaining to pornography, lingerie ads, pop music, sitcoms, and more. In fact, Triple X Church states the average child views pornography for the first time at the age of eleven. Shocked? I certainly was. As a mother, these negative filters can get discouraging.
How do you raise a son to learn to respect and adore women in a world that views them as sexual objects?
I personally believe two very important things will influence Lincoln:
A) Watching how his father treats me
B) Through exposure to my life’s work that’s so dear to my heart.
Parents often have big dreams for their kids, hoping that one day they’ll grow up to be doctors, lawyers, or professional athletes. Don’t get me wrong, I would certainly be a proud mother if Lincoln grew up and chose any of those professions. However, my true hope is that he will grow up to be a kind, loving man of God who values himself and the self-worth of others. He will be the guy who scolds his friends for catcalling the girl walking down the street. He will be the guy who opens the car door for his prom date. He will be the husband who values his wife and the father who wants to lead by example. My prayer is that he will never contribute to the low self-esteems, self-destructions, hurts and disappointments that so many of the girls of Wellspring Living have experienced. Yes, my hope and prayer is that Lincoln will go against the grain and grow up to be a true gentleman.